When Am I Getting Married?
Tuesday, August 15, 2006
For the past few months, perhaps, even the past couple of years, people are always asking me when I'm getting married or when A and I are getting married.
Honestly, although A and I do talk about marriage and know that we're each other's "The One," I am tired of hearing that question and it puts me under so much pressure. It's like everyone is telling me to, if not should, get married already.
So how do I deal with this question?
When my friends ask me this question, I say "When I have rock on my finger!" and we all have a laugh.
When acquaintances or people I'm not close to ask me this question, I say, "Well, we do talk about marriage but not anytime soon."
When my relatives ask me this question, I say roll my eyes and go, "Psshh!" as if to say, "Hello! I'm still young! Marriage is the least of my priorities!" because I know they have this fear of getting instantly old the moment I walk down the aisle. Obviously, I'm telling them what they want to hear. After all, many people think that when you get married, you're automatically having children. Hence, if I get married now and have kids, my grandmother would automatically be a great grandmother at the age of 67. My dad would be a grandfather at 43. Therefore making my youngest uncle a grand uncle at 32! We're a pretty young family actually.
When one of our investors ask me this question every time he sees me, I playfully say, "Kunin kitang ninong dyan eh! (I'll get you as a godfather!)" Then we both laugh and go our separate ways.
But lately, I have been answering this question differently. Whenever my friends ask me this question, I answer and we all laugh, some of them saying that I'm crazy. Just last week, over dinner at a somewhat fancy resto with my parents and sisters, something we haven't done in a while, my dad asked me out of the blue, "When are you getting married?" So I do my usual reaction of rolling my eyes. And my dad says, "You should be thinking about it. You're not getting any younger!" And so to take off the pressure and to shut my dad up, I gave my latest reply:
"When he gets me pregnant!"
I swear! My dad's reaction was priceless! His jaw dropped and my stepmom and I both laughed at him. My dad recovers by saying, "Well, it's not me who's gonna kill you. It's your lola!" My stepmom agrees and adds, "Yeah, she won't only talk to you (referring to me) about it, she'll talk to you (referring to my dad) for hours!" I playfully add, "Well, if he gets me pregnant, I'm gonna kill him!" (Of course, that's just to show them that I don't wanna get pregnant anytime soon... which I really don't!) And my wonderful stepmom says, "Ikaw, pwede pa! Si A, hindi!" As if to say that if I do get pregnant, it was my fault and not A's! Hahahahaha! That man is an angel in their eyes!
Hmmm, maybe when "When he gets me pregnant!" gets old, I'll change it to "When I have enough saved for an annulment!" just to shake and shut people up!
Honestly, although A and I do talk about marriage and know that we're each other's "The One," I am tired of hearing that question and it puts me under so much pressure. It's like everyone is telling me to, if not should, get married already.
So how do I deal with this question?
When my friends ask me this question, I say "When I have rock on my finger!" and we all have a laugh.
When acquaintances or people I'm not close to ask me this question, I say, "Well, we do talk about marriage but not anytime soon."
When my relatives ask me this question, I say roll my eyes and go, "Psshh!" as if to say, "Hello! I'm still young! Marriage is the least of my priorities!" because I know they have this fear of getting instantly old the moment I walk down the aisle. Obviously, I'm telling them what they want to hear. After all, many people think that when you get married, you're automatically having children. Hence, if I get married now and have kids, my grandmother would automatically be a great grandmother at the age of 67. My dad would be a grandfather at 43. Therefore making my youngest uncle a grand uncle at 32! We're a pretty young family actually.
When one of our investors ask me this question every time he sees me, I playfully say, "Kunin kitang ninong dyan eh! (I'll get you as a godfather!)" Then we both laugh and go our separate ways.
But lately, I have been answering this question differently. Whenever my friends ask me this question, I answer and we all laugh, some of them saying that I'm crazy. Just last week, over dinner at a somewhat fancy resto with my parents and sisters, something we haven't done in a while, my dad asked me out of the blue, "When are you getting married?" So I do my usual reaction of rolling my eyes. And my dad says, "You should be thinking about it. You're not getting any younger!" And so to take off the pressure and to shut my dad up, I gave my latest reply:
"When he gets me pregnant!"
I swear! My dad's reaction was priceless! His jaw dropped and my stepmom and I both laughed at him. My dad recovers by saying, "Well, it's not me who's gonna kill you. It's your lola!" My stepmom agrees and adds, "Yeah, she won't only talk to you (referring to me) about it, she'll talk to you (referring to my dad) for hours!" I playfully add, "Well, if he gets me pregnant, I'm gonna kill him!" (Of course, that's just to show them that I don't wanna get pregnant anytime soon... which I really don't!) And my wonderful stepmom says, "Ikaw, pwede pa! Si A, hindi!" As if to say that if I do get pregnant, it was my fault and not A's! Hahahahaha! That man is an angel in their eyes!
Hmmm, maybe when "When he gets me pregnant!" gets old, I'll change it to "When I have enough saved for an annulment!" just to shake and shut people up!
5 Comments:
Same here, dude. The other week, my mom was like, "David you havent dated in a while, and I'm just wondering if you're planning on getting married. Because if you are, you dont want kids when you're old." Yeah. I'm 20 years old! How can I start thinking about marriage?! Sheesh...so yeah, I totally feel you. Which is why I'm thinking if I ever do find Mrs. Right, I think a trip to Las Vegas will stop all those questions...dont you think?
we are so on the same boat. though lately they've been asking "siya na ba?". and to shut them up, i'd say "oo na, nakakatamad nang humanap ng iba".
next on my list is "when the money tells us to". because at the end of it all, it's really a HUGE investment.
Hahahahaha loved this piece! I also like that nnulment answer. That'll shut them up!
When you get married naman, it's always "So when are you gonna have kids?"
Pfffssssht.
Oh by the way, my single friend gets asked about marriage a lot. She's 28 and has no plans of settling down. When her relatives ask her, "So kelan ka ikakasal?"
She answers, "At bakit ko naman gagawin yun!?"
Winner!
eto pa mga pwede mong isagot:
kapag kalbo ang nagtanong nyan, ang sagot mo "kapag nagkabuhok ka na!"
kapag pangit at single ang nagtanong, ang sagot mo "kapag nagkaboyfriend ka na!"
kapag pangit at may asawa, ang sagot mo "kapag nagising na ang asawa mo at hiwalayan ka nya!"
kapag matanda na ang nagtanong, ang sagot mo "kapag bumata ka na ulit."
at kapag naman mataba ang nagtanong sa iyo nyan, ang isagot mo "kapag pumayat ka nang tulad ni paris hilton!"
hehehehe... kung hindi tumahimik silang lahat!
hay naku.. the perpetually annoying question! dati, akala ko mga pinoy lang mahilig magtanong ng "kelan ang kasal?".. chismosa kasi mga pinoy eh! haha
but i realised na ibang approach ang mga ka-lahi ni C! when we were in France, may sinabi mom nya na kamuntik na kong bilaukan:
"Look at this pearl necklace. My grandmother gave it to my mother and my mother gave it to me. I'll keep it safe so you can give it to my granddaughter."
Tama ba namang mag-skip ng generation!
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